Women & Identity.
Lady, It’s Not About Them – It’s About You
I find women intriguing. They not only have grace and poise but have a strong grit, steely nerves and a herculean energy .It fills me with a desire to write about this special person, who also has an inner compass, a guide that goes by the name of instinct, which she uses when she needs direction and guidance .
We, the women, allow ourselves to think of others first and put ourselves second. Finding the balance between the two is difficult. Instinctively, we also immediately try to solve problems without taking a moment to look at the big picture. The next time you reach out to help someone or take on an extra project, stop. Breathe. And see how important it is. Is it killing you ? Is it tough for you, draining you ? Will you be taking on too much? Will you overstretch yourself?
But maybe it's expected of me , you think , the woman thinks.
No, it is not. You might think they [ whole lot of people from family to office to your children] expect you to always be available, but they don’t. Let me clarify, people who love you for you will understand that you are not always open like an all night medical shop .
You have needs and expectations just like they do. Respect yourself lady , love yourself, give yourself the space you need .Be honest with them and yourself and once done be assured that they will love you the same whether you help them or not. Loving isn't your work alone..let others feel privileged too .You just might find out who truly appreciates you for being you.
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Gender Partnership
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Removing Stereotypes
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Body Positivity
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Depression in Women
Men can be great support and work as allies instead of big bosses . Gender equality that we so much want our children to learn, starts from home . By helping one’s partners at home in household chores, buying provisions and looking after kids, men are ensuring equality, a partnership that moves on to the workplaces also.
When fathers become equal domestic partners, they are role models in their families. Daughters aspire to take up their jobs which becomes less stereotypical like pilots and navy commanders with enough confidence and positivity. Similarly sons grow up respecting women and have no shame in cooking a meal or doing laundry.
This emanates from the right kind of positivity being fed in one's childhood .
Never allow anyone to talk about the physical aspects of your child , colour or size of the bodies etc. Encouraging and validating their efforts when the kids are young, helps them have a healthy self esteem.
It is not uncommon to see a lonely disturbed woman after thirty odd years of happy living. Hysterical outbursts, bouts of depression ,mood swings that can turn into extreme form of emotional imbalance ,suicides etc , women that everyone wonders whatever happened to, after living content lives for many years.